During the detoxification process many people will experience surges or waves of emotions that may feel uncontrollable. I wanted to take a moment to discuss emotions, detoxing and coping with how your feeling even if you’re not detoxing. Here’s a step-by-step guide to assist you on your journey to emotional health.
- Allow yourself to feel
One of the most important things you can do to improve your emotional state is to allow your emotions to come. If the sensation to cry comes, allow yourself to cry and embrace the release your body is asking for. This goes for any and all emotions, allow them to run their course. If you suppress the emotion or try to burry it, it will manifest again and become stronger. The more you suppress your own emotions, the more painful they become. In holistic circles, it is believed that suppressing your emotions is one of the main causes of physical illnesses, especially in the digestive system.
- Reflect on what you are feeling
When your emotions are surging try your best to pinpoint where the emotion came from. For example, perhaps you experienced something traumatic in your past that you never fully allowed yourself to process. Or perhaps you’ve grown up in a family that does not encourage showing emotions. If you can look inside yourself to find where this specific emotion is coming from, you can move on to the next step. BUT, don’t worry if you are not able to! Introspection and reflection is a practice that takes time to learn, so please have patience with yourself.
- Validate your feelings
This is one of the most important steps toward emotional health. Whenever you are experiencing an emotion, allow yourself to feel the emotion and validate those feelings. You have the right to experience your own emotions, how ever you are feeling them, when ever you are feeling them. Do not let anyone else tell you that it is not okay to feel what you are feeling. Tell yourself, right now I am feeling ______ (fill in emotion here), I acknowledge that I am feeling this way and that it is okay for me to experience this emotion.
- Observe your emotions but do not become them
The language we use to process our emotions is incredibly important. Your self talk can ultimately make the situation better or worse. In the statement above I recommend that you tell yourself “right now I am feeling____” instead of “I am sad”. Do not become your emotion. “I” statements can bring the emotion into our own perception of who we are as a person, which will only make the situation worse. Do your best to see your emotions like passing clouds, and not as a permanent situation. Keep in mind that it is okay to feel how you are feeling, even if it is uncomfortable at the time so ultimately you can let them go.
- Allow yourself to release the emotions
Once you have allowed yourself to feel what you are feeling, discovered where the feelings have come from, validated yourself and how you are feeling, and recognized that this is just a temporary state, then you can move on to releasing those feelings. Let the emotion run its course and then say to yourself internally or out loud that you have released the emotion, and it no longer need to carry it with you. Releasing an emotion that has been bottled up inside you may take time to heal. You may need to allow yourself several sessions of feeling, reflecting, validating, and observing your feelings before they can truly be released. Again, be patient with yourself. Emotional health is a life-long practice, and is not something that does come with an easy fix. I recommend writing these types of things down, and then burning them, burying them etc. to assist you with a physical release.
- Find support
Emotional health may not be something that you can fully handle on your own, and there is nothing wrong with that. We are social creatures, and our survival as a species is contingent on one another. Your own emotional health may also require social support. Whether it is a friend you can call, a family member or perhaps a professional psychologist, it is okay to lean on other people when you need some help. I highly recommend professional psychologists to anyone who needs an unbiased ear to talk to.